The waiting "game"

It has officially been more than a month since we've had any kind of "update." This is the stage that is typically called "The Waiting Game." I've always wondered about the origin of this phrase (much like I've wondered about "the cat's pajamas" and "the bee's knees.") From a semantic point of view, these phrases infer something exciting and fun. The Waiting Game....Its so fun...Its the cat's pajamas!.... The bee's knees! What does that mean? What is so fun about waiting or cat's pajamas (have you ever tried to clothe a cat?) or the bee's knees (please, most of us run because of the stingers. We don't care about their knees). 
Once you submit all of your paperwork, complete your homestudy, and finish your profile book, you have officially entered the Waiting Game. Meaning, you sit and wait and wait and wait for someone to call you with a referral or an update. I'm not sure of what the etiquette or protocol is during this time period. No one issued an Emily Post Book of Adoptions when we signed our contract. We have no experience to draw upon. We don't know what our role is during this time. From our limited experience, it seems to be an adoption faux pas or generally frowned upon to request updates during this Waiting Game period. I sent an email to our main contact on Friday ("I understand we are in the waiting stages of our adoption. It has been approximately one month since I last spoke with you. Is it possible to give us any information about where we stand and our progress? Thanks."), but still have not received a response. Maybe I crossed a line and violated an adoption more. Why does this unwritten rule exist? Why can't potential parents receive updates during this time? I want to be a part of everything. I don't get to experience pregnancy or send regular updates to friends or family about when I first felt the baby move, or when we learned the gender, or when the baby kicked, or when I began to experience contractions, or how much my weight has increased, or how fatigued I've become. However, I want to know when the profile book was printed, when it was sent to the agency, when the social workers reviewed it, whether the social workers considered it, when they met with the birth mothers, when they discussed our case with other agencies. I want to know it all. However, it seems that silence is the norm. We continue to play the Waiting Game, which is by no means a game. I think we've been relatively patient (or many have commented that we have been more patient than they ever could have been), but this seems like the LONGEST period since we started this long journey. (I just keep telling myself that the wait is worth it) I move that we remove the phrase "Waiting Game" from the lexicon and replace it with the "Waiting Torture." The Waiting Game is just misleading.